Partner during pregnancy – tips and advice for support
Being the partner of someone who’s pregnant is a unique journey. You want to be supportive, but sometimes it can be difficult to know exactly how. Here are practical tips to help you feel prepared, involved, and confident throughout pregnancy and ahead of the birth.
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Verified by Jenny Jansson
Certified midwife
Why the partner’s role matters in pregnancy
Being a partner is not just about being physically present. Your involvement strengthens your relationship, supports the pregnant mum, and builds confidence before birth. You can:
- Join antenatal appointments and ask questions
- Learn about pregnancy stages, physical changes, and the baby’s development
- Understand hormonal changes and emotional ups and downs
More than 8 out of 10 partners attend midwife appointments – and those who do usually feel more involved during the pregnancy.
Coping with fears about labour and birth
It’s natural for partners to feel worried. Common concerns include:
- Watching your partner in pain
- Blood and medical procedures
- Feeling unsure of how you’ll cope
How to deal with it:
- Talk openly with your partner about your fears
- Discuss them with the midwife or healthcare staff
- Consider support from a doula, who can guide and support both of you during labour
Mixed feelings – when doubt is normal
It’s not unusual for partners to feel uncertain: “Will I cope as a parent?” or “Am I really ready for this?” These thoughts are normal and often fade over time.
Tips:
- Speak to your midwife or a counsellor at the maternity clinic
- Share your feelings with your partner – it strengthens your bond
- Remember: parenthood develops gradually during pregnancy and beyond
Practical tips for partners
- Get involved in preparations – pack the hospital bag, plan meals, follow pregnancy milestones
- Provide emotional support – listen, comfort, and validate your partner’s feelings
- Learn about pregnancy and birth – knowledge brings confidence
- Look after yourself too – rest and self-care make you a better support
- Be curious and ask questions – it shows commitment and helps you feel included
When to seek support
Contact your midwife or a counsellor if you:
- Feel overwhelmed by fear about labour
- Struggle with stress or anxiety
- Want practical advice on how to support your partner better
Verified by Jenny Jansson
Certified midwife
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