Partner’s Guide to Labour – How to Support Best

Prepare in advance

• Attend parent classes, lectures, and ideally a tour of the maternity ward if the hospital offers it.
• Read up on the three stages of labour so you know roughly what to expect.
• Talk to friends or family with experience – it can provide new perspectives.
• Consider writing a birth plan together with the birthing parent – midwives appreciate this and it helps you communicate your wishes clearly.

Talk things through beforehand

For a more reassuring experience, discuss before labour:

• Your views on pain relief
• Whether the umbilical cord should be cut
• Where you or the support person will stand during labour
• Any fears or worries

The more you talk, the more confident both the birthing parent and you as a support person will feel.

Your role during labour

As a partner or support person, you can help by:

• Reminding about breathing and relaxation
• Offering massage, holding hands, or just being nearby
• Keeping track of practical things (water, toilet breaks, music, charged phone)
• Speaking with the midwife if the birthing parent is too focused to ask questions or speak up

Work with the midwife

The midwife is your guide through labour. Don’t be afraid to:

• Ask questions
• Speak up if something feels wrong
• Raise concerns – preferably outside the room so as not to stress the birthing parent

Things to consider during birth

Some parents may not want the partner or support person standing at the side where the baby is born – discuss this beforehand. But once the moment comes, it usually works out. Whether you are at the head, holding hands, or helping catch the baby, labour will be an unforgettable experience.