Partner’s Guide to Labor – How to Support Effectively

Prepare ahead of time

• Attend parent classes, lectures, and ideally a tour of the maternity ward if the hospital offers one.
• Read about the three stages of labor so you have an idea of what to expect.
• Talk to friends or family who have experience – it can offer new insights.
• Consider writing a birth plan together with the birthing parent – midwives appreciate it and it helps you communicate wishes clearly.

Discuss beforehand

For a calmer experience, discuss before labor:

• Preferences for pain relief
• Whether to cut the umbilical cord
• Where you or the support person will stand during labor
• Any fears or concerns

The more you talk, the more confident both the birthing parent and you as a support person will feel.

Your role during labor

As a partner or support person, you can:

• Remind about breathing and relaxation
• Offer massage, hold hands, or simply stay nearby
• Handle practical things (water, bathroom breaks, music, charged phone)
• Communicate with the midwife if the birthing parent is too focused to ask questions or speak up

Work with the midwife

The midwife is your guide through labor. Don’t hesitate to:

• Ask questions
• Speak up if something feels off
• Raise concerns – preferably outside the room to avoid stressing the birthing parent

Considerations during birth

Some birthing parents may not want the partner or support person standing at the side where the baby is born – talk about it beforehand. But once the moment comes, it usually works out. Whether you are at the head, holding hands, or helping catch the baby, labor will be an unforgettable experience.